Let’s face it. Going onto an online writing workshop (AKA critiquing site) is a little like walking across a minefield. There is a chance you can walk through it unscathed, but in reality, the likelihood of losing life or limb to an explosion is pretty high.
However, when it comes to writing, it isn’t the physical damage that will get you, but the emotional damage.
People talk about growing ‘thick skin’ when it comes to writing. That you need to somehow, magically, without any training whatsoever, learn how to handle constructive (or not!!) criticism.
This post will be a long one. If you’re interested in learning how I give a serious, honest critique, I implore you to pull up a chair and grab a drink. If you’re looking for instant gratification or you think you’re above improvement, you might find one of the other blogger’s posts to be more interesting.
I am going to start at the beginning. Once, long ago, there was a girl who didn’t like to read or write. Playing outside in the grass, running through the trees, and playing american football was much more interesting. One day, a clever teacher got the idea to not force literature books on an unsuspecting fourth grader, but rather a fantasy novel. (Well, more science fiction, but I digress.)
Madeline L’Engle’s A Wrinkle in Time created a monster. Me, to be exact. Sports and playing outside in the woods quickly made way for books. Lots, and lots of books. At one point, I was bringing home 16 or so different titles from the library every week and devouring them all. If the local used bookstore had stock, I should have bought it, because my book exchanges were done by the sports bag load.
Reading played a critical role in my writing. But, I was reading for pleasure. Writers need to read. A good foundation of writing is based off of reading. You can’t learn to write well unless you’re reading a lot of material. Not all writers read while they’re actively writing, but the foundation of having read a lot of books should be in place.
But, that could be another post all on its own, so I’m going to go back to the story of how I started getting into critiquing.
I don’t think I started to actually trying writing anything until I was in 6th grade or so. I drew picture books as my imagination ran wild. By this, I mean, I drew pictures and thought up stories in my head to go with them. I never wrote down the text, but the process was happening in my skull.
I received my first critique in high school. I thought I was all that and a cup of coffee, so I went to a writing workshop for genre fiction. I uploaded my piece, and started trolling for people to read it.
My mine field was fully armed, activated, and my first step had explosive results. While I don’t remember the exact specifics, it went something like this:
You write with passive voice. There is no action, the characters are boring. You use nothing but run on sentences, there are more spelling errors than I’m going to be bothered with mentioning. Everything you do is telling…
… it went on from there. I can’t quote the exact words, since I lost the original critique due to time, changed computers, and a move from the United States to Canada, but I’m pretty sure the stench of burned tail feathers wafted up and down the East Coast for at least a week.
My reactions were childish. I threw a temper tantrum. Granted, I did, somehow, manage to do it in private. Somehow. I was brought up well by my mother, so I even managed to thank the person.
I sure didn’t mean it back then, but I did thank them anyway.
That was about the same time I fell into a pretty common trap. Obviously, my genius was misunderstood. How could this person not recognize how awesome I was?!
I didn’t make for a good flamer. I don’t think I managed to write a single mean critique. I’m too honest. Back then, I was too kind. My first few critiques were several lines each, stating some mumbled jumble about how I liked their book, but I thought this might be improved. Good luck. You know, the usual.
The lofty goal of the lengthy critique was far, far away.
One of my problems was I was just too kind. I didn’t want to say anything that would upset someone like I had been upset. I remember all too well the feeling of self-loathing I endured as I realized my writing wasn’t ready for publication. I remember too well acknowledging that my dream of entertaining people wasn’t right around the corner.
I didn’t want to shatter that for anyone else. But, from that one, flaming critique that left me singed and burned, I also (eventually) found that I wanted — really wanted — to move forward.
It wasn’t until after I graduated high school that I was able to start writing serious critiques. There were two mindsets that I went through, with the haphazard place between.
The first mindset was to critique in order to be critiqued. All I wanted was the return feedback.
The second mindset was how can I improve my writing from critiquing others?
The middle ground between the two was a very confusing place because I wanted both and had no idea how to get there. In a way, I still want both. I want to improve my writing and I want to know how others think I can improve my writing.
I want to step on those landmines.
The shift was a subtle thing. I don’t remember the exact moment I started putting so much effort into my critiques. However, I do remember the moment where I realized that my own writing was improving. I couldn’t figure it out. I wasn’t writing any differently. I sat down, put my fingers to the keyboard (or on the pen) and I wrote. I didn’t do anything special. I was just writing.
Just like always.
But, the critiques I was receiving started to change. There were more things that people liked than they didn’t like. The lengthy line-edit critiques coupled with grammar lessons started to decrease. Instead, I was getting plot comments, characterization comments, comments that only come up when the writing has improved but the other underlying skills still need work.
I am convinced it wasn’t practicing writing that helped me improve.
It was the critiquing. It started with receiving an honest, brutal critique. By brutal, I mean ‘no consideration to the personal feelings of the author’. My book wasn’t me. The critiquer knew that, and kept it all on the book. It hurt me because it was my pride that was being critiqued, but that didn’t matter to the person who wrote it.
It was never about me anyway. Your book is not you.
Once I accepted that, I was able to take a big step forward. I was able to start looking at the writing of others in a new light. I was able to tear into a book, and be honest about the problems I perceived. I was able to try to be objective. By this, I mean that I considered things like writing style, but I also considered how I felt when I was reading. If the writing style hurt my ability to enjoy the story, I had no problems with poking at it.
But, the biggest thing that helped me improve was that I didn’t just point out what I felt could need improvement, I recommended ways to correct the problem.
The issue I had was that original first critique only pointed out the problems. They didn’t offer any solutions to the problems. I was expected (and rightly so!!) to figure it out on my own.
I’m not really all that clever like that. This was hard for me. So, once I was determined to improve myself, I wanted to give others the chance to endure the same sort of thing I did… but this time, I didn’t want to leave them in the dark. I wanted to be able to offer suggestions on how it could be improved.
This is speculation on my part, but I think it worked out for me because I did this. By making suggestions on how to improve others, I started to see how these suggestions applied to my own writing. I started to unconsciously implement these changes in my own books.
I learned through critiquing, by being critical and viewing the book as though I were an editor or a teacher working with a student. However, I was teaching myself at the same time. It is like doing math homework. You might understand the concept in class, but until you work through the problems, you can’t figure out how to apply the formulas you’ve been taught.
At first, there were things I was better at doing. I always had an easier time with plot issues, so I focused on that. Over time, I got braver, and started commenting on things like grammar. (Confirming the rules and making sure I could write examples that were better than the one I was trying to improve!)
This took time and it was tedious, but it worked. My writing kept improving.
It keeps improving.
This wasn’t a short process. I’m still doing it. If you want to learn to critique, you need to be critical. Here are a few tips I can think of off of the top of my head to help with improving your critiquing skills.
- Your critique is your opinion, not fact. Treat it accordingly. When you present issues, use ‘in my opinion’ or ‘I feel’. It really does help lessen the blows a little.
- Be thorough. If something bothers you, say what it is. Make a suggestion to improve it. Give an example if appropriate.
- If you start to skim, mark down where you caught yourself doing it. See #2.
- if you can’t think of something nice to say, you’re the problem. That’s right, I went there. If you can’t think of something nice to say, you’re riding a high horse. No story is not without something good about it. If you can’t find the strengths, you aren’t looking hard enough. Always include the strengths of a writer, even if they’re fledgling. It gives them something to focus on. Don’t be afraid to go ‘You’re really good at this, if you manage to improve $this, $that, or $this, I think you’ll be able to make this a good foundation of your writing. You can present strengths while still suggesting ways to improve those strengths.
- Take your words to heart. Never make a suggestion you aren’t willing to use yourself. Even if you’re struggling on something yourself, there is no reason you can’t make suggestions to others to improve it… if it makes you feel better, admit it is a weakness you also have. I know I’ve admitted my flaws during critiques often enough. Why would I do this? It is because I know I feel better when I know that others are struggling with the same problems I am struggling with.
- Be patient. If you leave a thorough critique, don’t be surprised if the person comes back and asks if you’d take a look again in the future after revisions. I’ve done this several times, and it is very rewarding. It is a little like watching a rose bloom right in front of you. If the writer really wants to improve, you’ll see the difference immediately.
- I struggle with this one, but try not to defend yourself or your critique. If they don’t like it, it isn’t like their refusal to accept your critique actually hurts you. Its hardest to do this when on the receiving end of the critique. If in doubt, say thank you and tell them you’ll consider their thoughts during edits. It’s true and it’s safe. It is also a polite way to acknowledge the hard work someone put in. Sometimes I will clarify things with the quantifier that I’ll be working the edits in but I wanted to answer a question (or questions) they had.
That is pretty much how I handle critiquing and how I got to this point. I hope that this is of use to you!